Saturday, May 20, 2006

Father-Daughter Frustration

With the onset of the moodiness of puberty, plus some stresses from Girl World at school, the Lone Star Girl is not the easiest person to live with these days...high drama is the norm and it is quite exhausting at the best of times. I have been surprised, though, at how badly Lone Star Pa is coping with this season. The Lone Star Girl has always been the center of his universe, but now...well, he is not really transitioning well to life as the father of an adolescent girl. He and the Lone Star Baby - who would have little to do with him in her high-need, mommified first year and a half or so - have done some serious bonding in recent months and it is almost like we are trading kids. After a long time when he was mainly taking care of the Lone Star Girl while I was overwhelmed with the Lone Star Baby, now he is taking care of the Lone Star Baby alot (except for when she wants her milk) and I am welcome to the alien who has taken over his older daughter. I guess he never did live with a growing girl - no sisters - but I wish he would get with it. The Lone Star Girl can't really handle what she perceives as rejection - she thinks she's the same person, even if she does not seem like it to him. And it is only going to get worse after all, much worse before it gets better - she's just ten and a half. I wish I could get him to read some books or something.

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