tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14319152.post3403776317675743081..comments2023-12-28T05:34:44.534-06:00Comments on Lone Star Ma Blog: You Don't Leave Your Kids - Even If You Are MaleLone Star Mahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14339475499304565638noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14319152.post-22985753076039679852012-08-18T10:17:39.112-05:002012-08-18T10:17:39.112-05:00I think that's a cop-out. Certainly it is wha...I think that's a cop-out. Certainly it is what some people do, but an adult can choose what they do - they don't have to take their disappointment out on their children. When you are a parent, it is your job to put your children first until they are grown. This may take different forms at different times and for different situations, but it should not involve leaving them behind. It is necessary for their development that they be the ones to leave you behind eventually. They rarely can do that well or in its proper time if you leave them first.Lone Star Mahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339475499304565638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14319152.post-557452208199827002012-08-18T09:53:49.679-05:002012-08-18T09:53:49.679-05:00What the columnist might have picked up is that a ...What the columnist might have picked up is that a parent who would do this may, on balance, be a better influence from afar.<br /><br />I agree that children would rather have their parents miserable in the next room than happy miles away. What children do not know is that a resentful, angry, disappointed parent can take his or her unhappiness out on children in psychologically damaging ways. Some of us parents are simply not equipped to do otherwise. Accepting this could be seen as healthy for the man in question. For these families, a distant parent might be just the right thing.Lee Robertshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01147787484739829179noreply@blogger.com